your mobile device and email, or tell them your whereabouts if their worried. If you find someone youre into, thats all that matters. so much more than women!! Maybe you just don't understand why she does it? Some people will still make a big deal out if it. The image of women as conservative and prudish has been in place since patriarchal days and were created by the fathers and prospective mates. Nothing wrong with that. insert kylo ren meme here. Its so they wont feel so bad about what they consider negatives about themselves or to justify them staying with someone who is totally wrong for them. enjoy has lead to a downward spiral in the family, out of control divorce No dice. I wouldnt. My ex-husband of 7 years was very well endowed and my current significant other is very much under-endowed, but the sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so. I practice EFT (emotional freedom technique) to get rid of emotional baggages which i guess he couldn understand. To finally find a person you connect with, is it really best for you to move away from that because of a number. Now the real problem is that not only are these type of women promiscuous, they lie about that number. I think the double standard is wrong, but the answer for me is to use the same standard for men as we currently use for women. Men have just as much of a right to choose as women do. If I am feeling someone and want to have sex, then so be it. You will hold the one your with until the money guy comes around, or they guy with the big D, or the guy with the confidence etc etc.its so fake and so bad for evolution tbh. I understand why you would hold the position that you hold since you arent aware of the actual science behind my statement. In fact, its usually the other way around (though the gap is starting to close) or its because of physical, mental, emotional abuse, neglect, ect. I am already spoken for. And marrying a male whore would not be my choice either! I feel if we allow ourselves to be more open, honest, and loving in our approach then we can see much better results. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. He controls himself. Trust that she learned from them, and did the best she could with the information she had at the time. Being of the younger generation (twenties in college) you often here a lot men degrade women for sleeping with plenty others but rarely hear the men being treated the same. I dont know if i should open up anymore or not. Piggy-backing on your statements, the world would be a pretty boring, lame place if the only differences between men and women were sexual organs. Women have a rep to protect and as a woman doing that knows shes gon have a name for herself so why do that in tha first place if you gon ne ashamed about tha number? We know that today we are faithful and happy. Stop with the STD guise it is about an Amen brother. To judge them is just wrong and unfair. Good for you! It tells men to be skinny jean wearing pussies (the opposite of what women really want) and women to be whores and sluts (who no man will ever commit to). Just understand we have all done things that the next person may not agree with. She's also in an art related major and I've always been drawn to girls who are artistic or creative even if I'm not entirely like that. Men stand to lose their homes, assets and children even when they were the ones who honored their vows, to have and to hold, for better or worse. It matters. What is more important than the number is why. Really think about this! Oh you left them because of that? Thats why I want to marry him. The vagina is made to accommodate different sizes. You have to go deeper to get a clearer picture and to see if this is still a woman battling certain issues or a woman who has been far removed from what she once was. Society is so flawed at this point in our lives that I almost feel in-adequately experienced enough to even attempt to date. the best ones are extremely intelligent and driven. Dude, consider this: she's got the experience to know what she wants and what she doesn't want. In the overwhelming majority of cases, a promiscuous sex life is indicative of other personality problems. If a girl is promiscuous or has had behavior IN HER PAST showing lack of self-respect, self-esteem, integrity, etc., she can tell me she has changed all she wants, but shes blown her chance at a LTR with me, simply because plenty of women have the character to not do the things she did. That is just my opinion but we are all entitled to go about life however we please. Doesnt mean a man will like it, but is it really worth letting go of a good thing because of a number. ?Still not got the point of it. That is why at the very beginning I say I think it is best for people to wait with sex. I dont even make eye contact with other men. Women need to get it together!!!! I just figured that if some of these ignorant people want to judge people they dont know Id give them a short and specific story. The red pill community has this notion that women are lesser but I haven't seen that too much in the more toned down PUA community. If i have to move out of town or state just so I dont have to deal with her many past smashes, then it aint worth it! One would have to define perfect first. Women with more sexual partners are less likely to remain in stable relationships: https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-QPnsHoU2Pzk/T3GylzESIiI/AAAAAAAAAYI/4USMzLGzm-A/w1200-h630-p-k-no-nu/Heritage.jpg. I believe yours is as well. I believe focusing on the number blinds us from the things we should really be looking at when trying to determine if this is a person we can have a successful relationship with. And yes, I enjoy educating the ignorant, such as yourself, on such topics. All I am saying in the article is that who she once was isnt always who she is now. While you are Dating or trying to marry a woman who have lived life and around 35+ age and then you realized you are just a number and may be not. I think Id have to agree with Sharona. Oh yes it does. for adults. Joe is a silly young man who enjoys eating tomatoes for his breakfast. Thank you for your wisdom, Mr. Labossiere. Lmao @ Whale Poop. women wait for 10 men and get to choose 1. But hey, it is what it is. Shame on you all. Last I checked, its not easy finding a men to love whom you can then share your love of sex with. Seems like one has more to offer the world (in numbers or human lives) than the other. unwillingness to invest in a cheap female advertised with non-existent Just dont call the guy u miss out on him immature or insecure I in no way dismiss the very true and valid points you have made. Guys in sports, entertainment and the military normally are cheaters. Men still are conscious of disease and do not want a woman who has been I feel this is an unfair double standard and I refuse to judge them or cast a negative light upon them for their choice. Just relax. Give me the infected one having only 2 men rather than the clean one after 30 physical infections have cure infections in the soul dont . esp on the parent side of things. She says that she really wants me to know the truth about her past and how many people she slept with. I Dont see it as passing judgement. I appreciate you sharing that. I dont think we should judge a person based on that. The way i look at this, is it shouldnt matter how many partners she has. As the article stated, STDs are not a product of high numbers, so somebody who has only been with 1 can have an STD while someone who has been with 80 could have no STDs at all. Our pasts, now matter how much we embrace or deny them, makes us who we are. Don't throw something good away without really trying to make . Another point, women/guys who sleep around a lot seem to keep their partners as friends. Always be ready and willing to check in on how she feels in the relationship, and if she feels she needs or wants something different. Im happy to be settled down now. You would have to be in it to understand. Theres no extra rewards to it. I doubt youd go for that. This stems from the fact that before child support laws, he could simply have sex and move on without any consequences. to pass on genes in males). lover constantly complains that you nag them, try and find ways to fix this Back in the day (I mean waaayyyy back lol) it was all about having a virgin. You're a victim of western purity culture, where a woman's value is measured by how few men she'e slept with. and dont forget life is a stinky bitch, you call your friend in your house and he happened to be one of your wifes exes. All by the help of the Queen mother . Stop posting this stupid things. Poll your male friends and see how many of them dream of settling down and building a family with a slut. First, I asked her what she thought. are is the number that would still be acceptable to most. Individuals must and should always attend to their home garden and not others. No one would want their daughter or niece to sleep around. pregnant with other males children, if given the choice. You wouldnt have knowledge of what a great burger taste like unless you tried multiple burgers.. Actually this research was proven by a Womens Organization! She is a great woman and I am a great man. I say this because the double standard doesnt stem from men not viewing women as equals, it stems more from wanting to control the behavior of women. This function is innate to humans and does not become desensitized. So with that, is nobody worthy of redemption or are we to judge people on their past and hold their previous mistakes over their heads forever? It carries some truth to it undoubtedly. Upon my first penetration with her, i could still tell that she was experienced just from the sheer mechanics of her vagina. The majority of women are not sluts, as witnessed by the median number of partners for the American woman, and it is not hard to find one. I get sick of people looking at women thinking they are wrong for what they do when men are praised. I like her a lot cause she is smart, funny, outgoing, pretty, and we just have the exact same sense of humor and get along better than I do with almost anyone in my life as we're really similar people. First off you assume that a woman who has experience has slept with that many partners. Ask around ladies. What ever happened to the days when articles encouraged people to better themselves. Every self-respecting guy I know does not want to settle down with a whore, and would respect a woman less if he learned she had 100 former partners vs. say 8. Honestly what you are saying has a lot of truth to it, and that is one of my points. You should have an idea that its not a good look. Women are no different than men. Lets say it was you in their spot. As simple as that, why be ashamed or beat yourself up over a number if numbers didnt define a hoe then her actions would. Why must women be held to an higher standard than men? Burn it. for their own well being and for that matter We are in our 60s and feel like teenagers. Most of it was a hard learning lesson for me. this is not true. You dont sound like an expert. It is the fact that you will hold this over someones head forever that I feel could use some rethinking. Again the difference between a woman who you thought you love and the one that she becomes whens she says her number is the same as living in a lie (for example the wife of a child rapist, she may be very happy with her husband till she finds her husband was a child rapist 10 years ago ) It is just living a lie that woman is just not the person you think she is I can only say that when I look at my wife I see the most beautiful and pure thing in the creation if she would come and tell me she had 50 other men I would be devastated and I could never look at her in the same way. That is all the article is trying to say. Sex doesnt hurt for me anymore, and its great! Or cheated or whatever. At the end of the day, I dont want to ever sleep with another man besides my boyfriend. Whatever. I think you misunderstand the article, this is not an article to promote a womans right to be promiscuous. 1. Lets say the conversation never came up about # of sex partners. If she is what you need her to be, but then you find out she had X amount of partners, well that shouldnt override who she currently is. Sin is sin is sin. Is she still a better option than the woman who once upon a time was promiscuous, no longer behaves that way, has healed/worked past her issues, and now can be everything you would need her to be? As soon as women get that into their thick sex driven heads they will realise the truth. Being old-fashioned is not an excuse. Just settle because the other person isnt perfect. The First and the Last. The past is relevant to understanding who the person was and now is. Whether saying that a woman should have a low number of partners is out of sync with reality or not is irrelevant. So again it isnt the number, it is how they behave today and if they have addressed any issues from the past that can linger and hurt them and the person they enter into a relationship with. To use the analogy of work, yes, fair comment. 2. panophobic. This is a trite platitude devoid of meaning. I totally agree with you. She told me one instance where she went to a party and simply grabbed some random guy there and went into a room with him to have sex, and she was fully conscious not drunk. Hey Natasha : ). Anyone with a brain knows that a persons past is a huge reflection of themselves and that past actions can show a lot especially in regards to the human condition. I will not look down upon people who do not agree with this, I just genuinely feel that they may not be taking the best approach. Hes stating that their promiscuity prior to marriage has developed a mindset within them that they will never be satsatisfied with one man for very long. And no one will understand fully if they didnt make a similar choice. Hi Stephan, I dont see where you think I was insulting others. you may have some serious issues and I would say that its too many. Fuckboys should marry women who slept around and end up opening the relationship when they will inevitably reach the point where they realize one dick or one vagina is no longer enough. But then I brought the conversation back to the fast girls. If she has had just a single partner before me, it could be hard to find out whether she is still in love. University of Virginia says it does matter if you want a happy marriage. Understand her past and evaluate her for the woman she is today, not who she once was. Thats it! I accepted the same level of acceptance i had with him. Nothing sums it up better, I wish I could sit down and heave beer with you. That's what these things do. A study Sarah Mikach and Michael Bailey of Northwestern University looked at the correlation between a woman's sexual partners and . Its about respect. Yet a man can have sex with 50 women and ejaculate in all of them and expect at least 50 lives in a year and knows damn well hes the father backed by 50 women also saying so! Im gone from a serious thing..dont get me wrong, ill keep her around and have sex with her, but no emotion will be devoted to her. Get out of the relationship, because you want There is no double standard. Not truly. I understand that, that may have not been what you were implying but the implication is there. She is a human being like a man is a human being. It is the little matter of lying about the past that makes it untennable. Some guys don't want something that was shared by several others. 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